Welcome to another edition of “Military Spouse Friday Fill-In” hosted by Wife of a Sailor. It’s been so great finding and learning about other MilSpouses. If you haven’t yet been to Wifey’s site, go check it out!
This week’s questions are:
1. What is ONE thing you’d like civilians to understand about being a military family?
I wish people understood how lonely deployment actually is for those of us on this end of it. I have had many well-meaning people say, “If you ever need to talk, just give me call.” Almost no one has said, “Would you like to have a cup of tea on Thursday night?” There is a big difference. The first asks me to admit that I need something. The second says, “I value your company, so let’s get together.” Most military wives are very proud and I’m no exception. I’d rather sit in my house and rot until my skeletal fingers are found clutched around this mouse with my empty sockets staring at a still-humming computer screen, then ask for something from someone I think is reluctant to give it.
2. What is your favorite mistake?
Keeping my first date with my husband. Three days after I met him, we made a date for lunch. That same night I found out he was deploying to Iraq in a couple of months. The smart thing to do would have been to say, give me a call when you get back…but I didn’t.
3. What indulgence could you give up for a year?
My husband. But only because I have to.
4. If you could be a winged animal, what would you be?
A dragonfly. I think they are beautiful and graceful and I’d love to skim over the surface of a lake, feeling the wind rush past. Provided a fish didn’t gobble me up, that is.
5. What is one question you’d like to see asked in a future MFF?
Where are you currently located? That sounds creepy and stalkerish, but I don’t want to know specifics. Just curious if anyone is in my general area (New England). It seems like most of you all are located south of DC or west of Chicago (or overseas). Guess that’s because I’m a Guard wife, and not on post?